Happily Divorced

What is the key for finding your way to a position of “happily divorced?”

Some people believe the “happily divorced” comes after a divorce party. I don’t happen to agree.

Women who have gone through the divorce process often feel like the proverbial “dragged behind a truck” image.

All women need to take a step back and sort through their feelings and own them. They need to understand that resentments, concerns, fears, anger and guilt are very normal.

They need to remember that the mistakes we made in our pasts are not what is important. It’s what we learned from our mistakes that is important.

So as difficult as it is, put your best foot forward. Pay it forward by helping out someone else. Little by little and step by step you will you will arrive at your destination, “happily divorced.”

The sky is the limit when you believe that and then do what needs to be done.

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A Talk Show Wants You!

Ladies, I have some potentially good news for you.  Helping others always makes you feel better. Trust me, I know it is true. Now it’s your turn, if you would like!

There is a nationally-syndicated daytime talk show that wants to hear from you if you are currently going through a divorce. They’re hoping to follow your journey as you start over, figure things out with children, finances, friendships, family and dating, and ultimately pick up the pieces. By participating, you can inspire and empower other moms going through divorce.

Note: You must live within 3 hours of NYC. If you’d like to share your story, email DaytimeTVShow@gmail.com ASAP with your name, phone number, a self description and a photo.

And let them know you heard about it here!

Thanks!

A Quick Fix or Quick Sand?

Some of you are in the “I’m not sure if my marriage can be saved” mode.

You have related abusive stories and some of you have had your husbands neglect you or cheat on you. Yet you are not certain about which way to turn and you are still hanging on.

So many of you have swept your concerns under the proverbial carpet and have invited your estranged husbands back into your beds.

Here is the thing. A brief escape that brings past memories and feelings to the surface may give you a temporary high. But in the long run, it can be detrimental because your vision of reality becomes clouded.

The best thing is to ask yourself a couple of questions before you take a plunge into temporary pleasure between the sheets.

1.  Why are we getting divorced?

2.  Take the answer to #1 and ask: What if anything has changed?

Your answers will tell you what to do. Are you ignoring reality in an effort to feel less lonely and less of a failure temporarily?

Are you grasping at a quick fix to your problems or are you taking a nosedive into the very same quicksand that triggered your divorce in the first place?

Only you will have the answers.

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