There Is A Bright Side In Divorce!

February can be a sad month for a lot of women who are going through the divorce process for many reasons. February can be a bit bleak because of the weather and then there is also the fact that the dreaded Valentine’s Day is part of the scenario.

Once again, it’s all about attitude and belief in a better tomorrow! This is a picture I took today during the snow storm. Look what is peeking out from behind the wind and snow. There is always a bright spot in life if we just remember to be open to the possibility that there is light at the end of the tunnel of divorce.

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No Sex = No Marriage = Divorce

According to the Associated Press “No sex – no marriage. At least that’s what a Maryland lawmaker wants.”

We have all heard of No Fault divorce but now there is legislation being proposed in Maryland to have No Sex divorce.

Luiz Simmons is proposing that divorces should be granted to couples after they go one year without sex. Currently, the law in Maryland states that a couple requesting an uncontested divorce must live apart for one year prior to the granting of a divorce. “Simmons says the requirement puts a financial burden on many couples, especially if they have children. The measure would allow couples to remain in the same house as long as they’re not having sex during the yearlong waiting period.”

As always, there are pros and cons to the idea. In my opinion, if the husband and wife can live together without the usual pre-divorce fighting and drama, it works and can save them financial issues.

In more cases than not, there is conflict between the couple. The same holds true with the fact that most children do not want their parents to divorce. The whole family must live in Limbo instead of moving on with their lives. Sure there can be a financial benefit but what happens if  one or both parents begin to date? Where does this leave the children and their stability? What is your opinion?

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Birds Of A Feather Flock Together!

…And on that note, we need to flock together! I have received a gazillion emails from those of you who prefer to contact me via email instead of posting comments here.

I always welcome direct contact with each and every one of you for so many reasons BUT the reality is this: We and that means each and every one of us needs to share our experiences and insight with women who need our help.

Maybe you didn’t write the book but that doesn’t mean you don’t know your story by heart or heartbreak in many cases. Here is an example of something that was shared with me regarding medical records. I benefited from hearing about it and passed it on to you. Had it not been shared with me, I couldn’t have shared it with you.

So many of you have mentioned to me that you feel safer with emails and that is fine but you CAN comment anonymously on this site. You do NOT have to use your real name to post a comment. Your input, your support, your questions and your experiences are what are appreciated.

Your real name plays no role in helping other women beat the odds of a devastating divorce. In fact, it might be a lighthearted touch to make up a fun name that describes you but please keep it clean! (Smile!)

There is only one rule here. No attacks on other women posing questions or commenting will be allowed. So many of you who are regulars here know that I will not tolerate unkindness!

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Is your spouse lying to you?

There are a few signs that may indicate that a person is not telling the truth. Once you have a reason to think that your spouse is not telling you the truth or before you have a reason, look for these signs:
Does he fidget when you ask him questions?
Does he shrug his shoulders when answering [...]

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Are You Married To A Cheater?

Are you married to a cheater?  How can you know for sure? It’s kind of like asking yourself if your kids are using alcohol or drugs. You need to ask yourself a few questions and then pay attention to your answers. Remember that these are possibilities and not proof but you need to get prepared, [...]

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Divorce Care for Children

It is apparent that at long last, there are programs directed at helping the children whose lives have been rocked by divorce. Until very recently, a mother had only two choices to help her children. One was to go to the schools and advise teachers or guidance counselors and hope that they can help in [...]

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Grieve: Your Own Way

Did you know that experiencing a divorce is like experiencing the death of a loved one? Sometimes, divorce can be even more painful and therefore the person experiencing the divorce must realize that there is a grieving period that must be addressed. Everyone is different and everyone deals with grief differently.
Please don’t fall victim to [...]

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