If you think you might be the targeted parent in the case of parental alienation, these are some of the suggestions made by many experts on the subject. You will need to adapt them to your personal situation but they will serve as a foundation with which you can cope and hopefully help the situation.
This is not an easy time and these are not easy tasks. Believe me, I know.
- Do not blame your child. Even though your child may not show it, he or she needs your affection and love. A child involved in parental alienation is an emotionally abused child.
- Do not discuss the court case with your child.
- Do not be defensive or argue with your child. As difficult as it is, try not to react to what your child has been told as the truth. Instead, work on talking openly with your child about what he or she is feeling.
- As difficult as it may be, stay calm and remain in control.
- Keep a diary that lists the events. Include what led up to the event. Be specific.
- Do not react to the actions of your child or the alienating parent by engaging in your own retaliation toward your ex.
- Above all remember that your children are the most hurt as they experience parental alienation, even though your pain is unbearable too.
- Always do what is court ordered regarding visitation. Keep a record of all occurrences in your diary.
- Use your time with your child positively. Reminiscing about happy times with your child can help your relationship.
- Try to get counseling for your child and yourself. If this isn’t possible, read information that will help you to improve your parenting skills.
Remember that time does heal but you need to take some steps to aid the healing process.
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